This weeks Gospel is well known, taken from John (21:1-19), and is the passage in which Jesus asks Peter three times "
Simon, son of John, do you love me?" (Joh 21:16 RSV). An important aspect in this passage is the distinction which is made between love as
agapê (
ἀγάπη), loving as God loves, and
philia (
φῖλία) which is more an affectionate love or regard.
The first two times Jesus asks Peter (note he addresses Peter as Simon here):
"Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?" (Joh 21:15 RSV) and "
Simon, son of John, do you love me?" (Joh 21:16 RSV) Jesus uses the word
agapê, a love in its purest form; a love as God loves. But both times Peter replies not using the word
agapê but philia. The third time when Jesus asks "Simon, son of John, do you love me?" (Joh 21:17 RSV) he doesn't use agapê but uses philia instead, and as such meets Peter where he is at. "Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, 'Do you love me?'" (Joh 21:17 RSV), he recognised that he failed to truly love God in the way God loves him. But Peter shows us that we have to work on our love of God to be able to answer God's love for us in the same way, as it is what we are called to, we are called to love as God loves and Jesus command us "that you love one another as I have loved you" (Joh 15:12 RSV).